Being that it is Wednesday, and I completely just blogged about my "Lady Issues", I owe some of my other viewers some music relief...
Lately I've been on my UGK, Lil' Keke, Boosie, Big K.R.I.T, & Devin tip, so I have to dig in the crates and pull out some classics..
Here you go...& Keep in Mind I'm first a Lady, but its somethin about them boyz with a Southern Twang...
Big K.R.I.T. "Hometown Glory"
Big K.R.I.T Feat/ Ludacris & Bun B "Country Sh*t"
UGK "The Game Belongs to Me"
Lil' Keke feat. Paul Wall & Bun B. "Chunk up the Duece"
Devin The Dude "Lacville '79"
YoungBloodz "85"
Po Pimp "Do or Die"
Crucial Konflict "Hay"
UGK "Pocket Full of Stones"
Wednesday, June 22, 2011
Flaws & All...Tips from Essence Magazine & Will Smith
Hey Hunnybee's!
As you have read in my previous post, the Queen Hunny Bee has been looking for Mr. Right! I came across an article written by Charli Penn, a writer for Essence Magazine, who interviewed Will Smith on his 13year SOLID marriage to the lovely Jada Pinkett Smith. This article caters to a married couple trying to keep things solid and fresh, however, somethings still apply...As you know, it is always a good look to plan for the future, so you won't make mistakes other women have in the past, or even mistakes you've made once before. I suggest you read this "short but to the point" article, reflect, and write down things you could possibly do better in your relationship, or even for yourself. It usually isn't always a man's fault things don't work out, so lets learn how we can present ourselves in a way that knock out all the bullshit. If we start at home with us, map out what we want, and what we can bring to the table, then maybe that will cut out all the crap we deal on a day to day basis with the other sex..
Grab a bottle, sit, reflect, and lets write down our flaws & all ladys...
Here's the gist of the interview:
If You Marry Your Best Friend, You’re Good
Every man wants to marry his homie. A lot of women will impress them, but it’s the one they can always laugh with and be themselves with that will ultimately impress them the most. If you can be yourselves around each other, 100 percent of the time, and they can make you laugh like no one else can, you’ll never have a dull moment together.
Remind Him of What He Has
When you start to feel that you’re nagging your husband to the point of no return and nothing you’re saying is getting through, Will suggests you try a new approach. Hold him close, look him right in the eyes, and tell him that you love him, you’re right there, and you always will be, BUT you need him to pick his socks up – right now. As Will puts it, it’s important to remind him that your request is coming from a good place, and what you want is a small thing in the grand scheme of things.
All Men Need A Little Space
If you don’t give your husband thirty minutes to himself when he first gets home he’ll stop coming home. When I asked Will when a wife was supposed to say her piece, he responded, “anytime after that.” Will reminded me that everyone’s home needs to feel like a happy place, and it won’t if you’re “greeted with negativity” every time you enter the door.
Focus on Balance and Excitement Always
According to Will and Jada’s way of thinking about marriage, maintaining a happy union isn’t just about making time for one another, it’s about making the time count too. Excitement and mystery are everything, he said. Surprise them, let them know you love them, laugh together – whatever it takes to put a smile on their face.
For the full interview, please follow the link:
http://www.essence.com/2011/06/20/what-will-smith-taught-me-about-marriage/
As you have read in my previous post, the Queen Hunny Bee has been looking for Mr. Right! I came across an article written by Charli Penn, a writer for Essence Magazine, who interviewed Will Smith on his 13year SOLID marriage to the lovely Jada Pinkett Smith. This article caters to a married couple trying to keep things solid and fresh, however, somethings still apply...As you know, it is always a good look to plan for the future, so you won't make mistakes other women have in the past, or even mistakes you've made once before. I suggest you read this "short but to the point" article, reflect, and write down things you could possibly do better in your relationship, or even for yourself. It usually isn't always a man's fault things don't work out, so lets learn how we can present ourselves in a way that knock out all the bullshit. If we start at home with us, map out what we want, and what we can bring to the table, then maybe that will cut out all the crap we deal on a day to day basis with the other sex..
Grab a bottle, sit, reflect, and lets write down our flaws & all ladys...
Here's the gist of the interview:
If You Marry Your Best Friend, You’re Good
Every man wants to marry his homie. A lot of women will impress them, but it’s the one they can always laugh with and be themselves with that will ultimately impress them the most. If you can be yourselves around each other, 100 percent of the time, and they can make you laugh like no one else can, you’ll never have a dull moment together.
Remind Him of What He Has
When you start to feel that you’re nagging your husband to the point of no return and nothing you’re saying is getting through, Will suggests you try a new approach. Hold him close, look him right in the eyes, and tell him that you love him, you’re right there, and you always will be, BUT you need him to pick his socks up – right now. As Will puts it, it’s important to remind him that your request is coming from a good place, and what you want is a small thing in the grand scheme of things.
All Men Need A Little Space
If you don’t give your husband thirty minutes to himself when he first gets home he’ll stop coming home. When I asked Will when a wife was supposed to say her piece, he responded, “anytime after that.” Will reminded me that everyone’s home needs to feel like a happy place, and it won’t if you’re “greeted with negativity” every time you enter the door.
Focus on Balance and Excitement Always
According to Will and Jada’s way of thinking about marriage, maintaining a happy union isn’t just about making time for one another, it’s about making the time count too. Excitement and mystery are everything, he said. Surprise them, let them know you love them, laugh together – whatever it takes to put a smile on their face.
For the full interview, please follow the link:
http://www.essence.com/2011/06/20/what-will-smith-taught-me-about-marriage/
Monday, June 20, 2011
I Wanna Be Down, BUT WHERE CAN I FIND YOU?!
Hey HunnyBees!!
I told you I was making a come back :)
For the past few months, I've noticed that my girls and I have been on the prowl to find a man... or several lol... We are all very attractive WOMEN above the age of 25, and all are on the way to having successful careers. My girls and I have arrived at the age where we know what we want in life, have direction, and want to find a partner who will build our empires & dreams with us. We aren't looking to have a marriage proposal in the next 3-6 months, but we are looking for someone following the same path we want to take. We are looking for a man with a plan who is willing to attempt to dive into the thought of possiblities with his possible soul mate.
The problem is, WHERE DO YOU FIND A BROTHA THAT WANTS TO BE DOWN?>
Lately we've been going out more, trying to find places to meet eligible bachelors, and so far, we haven't been too successful. We've tried sports bars, lounges, lounges/bowling alleys lol, and even just having a girls night out at a restaurant...still, nada! Usually the saying goes "If you look to hard for something, you'll never find what you're looking for", but come on!!! Give us something to work with Baby Jesus.. a nice conversation and some follow up will do! And if possible, please just let him have a job and be able to spot me on Super sizing my Big Mac Meal every now & then...
So HunnyBee's, you tell me, where does a young woman go to find a brotha with a plan??
I've done some research on a few websites of other women asking the same question. Below is what they've come up with. Please HunnyBees, give other women looking, as well as myself, some answers :)
http://www.city-data.com/forum/washington-dc/612816-where-black-men-dc.html
http://blackbiz.meetup.com/
http://society.ezinemark.com/why-i-love-washington-dc-speed-dating-17aadae9a0b.html
http://washington.org/visiting/browse-dc/attractions/100-free-things-to-do/african-american-experience
I told you I was making a come back :)
For the past few months, I've noticed that my girls and I have been on the prowl to find a man... or several lol... We are all very attractive WOMEN above the age of 25, and all are on the way to having successful careers. My girls and I have arrived at the age where we know what we want in life, have direction, and want to find a partner who will build our empires & dreams with us. We aren't looking to have a marriage proposal in the next 3-6 months, but we are looking for someone following the same path we want to take. We are looking for a man with a plan who is willing to attempt to dive into the thought of possiblities with his possible soul mate.
The problem is, WHERE DO YOU FIND A BROTHA THAT WANTS TO BE DOWN?>
Lately we've been going out more, trying to find places to meet eligible bachelors, and so far, we haven't been too successful. We've tried sports bars, lounges, lounges/bowling alleys lol, and even just having a girls night out at a restaurant...still, nada! Usually the saying goes "If you look to hard for something, you'll never find what you're looking for", but come on!!! Give us something to work with Baby Jesus.. a nice conversation and some follow up will do! And if possible, please just let him have a job and be able to spot me on Super sizing my Big Mac Meal every now & then...
So HunnyBee's, you tell me, where does a young woman go to find a brotha with a plan??
I've done some research on a few websites of other women asking the same question. Below is what they've come up with. Please HunnyBees, give other women looking, as well as myself, some answers :)
http://www.city-data.com/forum/washington-dc/612816-where-black-men-dc.html
http://blackbiz.meetup.com/
http://society.ezinemark.com/why-i-love-washington-dc-speed-dating-17aadae9a0b.html
http://washington.org/visiting/browse-dc/attractions/100-free-things-to-do/african-american-experience
Friday, June 17, 2011
HunnyBee...WheRe's Your Free??
2 days ago...
I recieved a text from a friend I hadn't spoken to in 2 years. He asked me how I was doing...the usual, and stated he came across my hunnybeefree blog. I hadn't completely forgotten about my hunnybee posts, as they served as a outlet for both my talents and personal thoughts, but when he asked me if I still wrote, the last thing I remembered writing was a letter to my best friend that passed a few months ago.
Last weekend...
My grandmother asked me what my plans are in life, my passions, and when I am going to start putting things in action. Currently I'm working fulltime, I pay my own bills, I'm stressed everyday of the week, except Fridays lol, and I'm TIRED as hell... Naturally, I looked at my grandmother like she was crazy...lol.. My thoughts were, "Lady, I'm living right now! This is my plan...I'm making it right?!"
Yesterday...
My bestfriend came across my last post, not recognizing the date, and congradulated me for writing, as she remembers how free I felt after posting on my blog. After she congradulated me, she realized the date on the last blog was Novemeber 2010...Clearly, she was mistaken.
Today & Every other day, I. Must. BLOGGGGGG!
See you soon Hunnybee's...Send me good vibes & motivation!! Ask the Universe to provide good topics to discuss!
I recieved a text from a friend I hadn't spoken to in 2 years. He asked me how I was doing...the usual, and stated he came across my hunnybeefree blog. I hadn't completely forgotten about my hunnybee posts, as they served as a outlet for both my talents and personal thoughts, but when he asked me if I still wrote, the last thing I remembered writing was a letter to my best friend that passed a few months ago.
Last weekend...
My grandmother asked me what my plans are in life, my passions, and when I am going to start putting things in action. Currently I'm working fulltime, I pay my own bills, I'm stressed everyday of the week, except Fridays lol, and I'm TIRED as hell... Naturally, I looked at my grandmother like she was crazy...lol.. My thoughts were, "Lady, I'm living right now! This is my plan...I'm making it right?!"
Yesterday...
My bestfriend came across my last post, not recognizing the date, and congradulated me for writing, as she remembers how free I felt after posting on my blog. After she congradulated me, she realized the date on the last blog was Novemeber 2010...Clearly, she was mistaken.
Today & Every other day, I. Must. BLOGGGGGG!
See you soon Hunnybee's...Send me good vibes & motivation!! Ask the Universe to provide good topics to discuss!
Friday, November 5, 2010
HunnyBee:ForColoredGirls who Considered Poetry...
Hey Hunnybees!
Yesterday my roommate introduced me to a wonderful young lady by the name of Jasmine Mans. Jasmine, who happens to be the 2009 Star Ledger Performing Arts Scholarship winner, reminds me of what I used to be, what I am trying to get back to being, and where I'd like to go. Her poetry discusses various topics, and her ora is that of a young 2010 version of Assata Shakur/Angela Davis. Thanks to youtube.com, I have come across clips of her performances discussing abortion, rape, the figure of black women in Rap, and the First Lady Michele Obama. Jasmine truely has a gift, along with other young woman I stumbled upon today. Please check these women out, let me know what you think, and enjoy!
P.S. I haven't seen Tyler Perry's "For Colored Girls" yet, however, there is a quote I heard from the movie that is a must share!
"I have found God in Myself, and I LOVE HER FIERCELY"
Reflect on your Love for Knowledge, Self, and Peace of Mind....
In-step's Ms. Alexis Marie's poetry:
16 Year-Old Zora Howard...PLEASE PAY ATTENTION!!
Her Poem entitled "Bi-Racial Hair"
I have bi-racial hair
Pantene Pro-V waves on the top
Easy to style, comb, rock-
Until-I encounter my naps,
I’m not talking about those-cute detangle with the spray naps.
I’m talking about those, slave naps, like,
No comb, brush, or man can handle the kind of naps I got- like,
No way you are touching my hair-naps like
Back 10 feet up, or we can dance naps
Those naps like-
DAMN!
I have bi-racial hair,
Those smooth and silk rafts hanging all through my mane,
Until you get to the back, and encounter the jungle, in which you can find Tarzan and Jane.
In the front you forget and relax in the pleasure,
Until you get to the back and remember pain
Baby hair slicked back with that good 4 dollar pomade,
That goes with roots and tangles,
Soaked with that same olive oil; mixed with that spaghetti sauce momade.
I have bi-racial hair,
Combs run freely through my fine breezy, just to the part, the most you can make,
Until it gets to the back and
Breaks.
I have bi-racial hair
Like-
The only thing my mother could put it in was 2 big braids,
And sometimes that was to much,
So she left half undone.
I was in the mirror, I was in the mirror,
Convincing my self I looked just like a dark-skinned Alicia Keys
I have bi-racial hair,
because I have bi-racial blood.
I’m not talking about that-cute they met then fell in love, blood
I’m talking about that- slaved raped six times by the master,
Birthing 6 mixed babies, later hung blood
I’m talking about that cross burning in the mud, blood
And you call me a mud blood,
Slit my rist,
my blood does not excrete in black and white.
I drean in verse and in red
Like what drained from Emmit Tills’ lips when he was killed for breaking down color lines
Bi-racial who surcomes to the abuse from her peers in her middle school,
Those whose who constantly called me an Oreo
Well she’s not white, its more like Reese’s cookie, mixed breed or a mullato
That’s what it is a reverse mulatto
I AM NOT A FUCKING COOKIE OR A BITCH!
My roots are deep too
my bi-racial roots are not blind
or more than cotton soft
cause my blood were in the sun, picking cotton too
a thousand times discrated for my race
a thousand time discrated from my history y'all never get
let textbooks be your truth
and sprinkle the ashes of your history into streams
i dream for a time and place where
maybe y'all all accept me
maybe we need to wake up again and remember a morning of you
like something new
baby I'll be green cause my people drove there
you people drove me there
with my tender heart
tender head
and my bi-racial hair
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RTnxJdxhU7o
Yesterday my roommate introduced me to a wonderful young lady by the name of Jasmine Mans. Jasmine, who happens to be the 2009 Star Ledger Performing Arts Scholarship winner, reminds me of what I used to be, what I am trying to get back to being, and where I'd like to go. Her poetry discusses various topics, and her ora is that of a young 2010 version of Assata Shakur/Angela Davis. Thanks to youtube.com, I have come across clips of her performances discussing abortion, rape, the figure of black women in Rap, and the First Lady Michele Obama. Jasmine truely has a gift, along with other young woman I stumbled upon today. Please check these women out, let me know what you think, and enjoy!
P.S. I haven't seen Tyler Perry's "For Colored Girls" yet, however, there is a quote I heard from the movie that is a must share!
"I have found God in Myself, and I LOVE HER FIERCELY"
Reflect on your Love for Knowledge, Self, and Peace of Mind....
In-step's Ms. Alexis Marie's poetry:
16 Year-Old Zora Howard...PLEASE PAY ATTENTION!!
Her Poem entitled "Bi-Racial Hair"
I have bi-racial hair
Pantene Pro-V waves on the top
Easy to style, comb, rock-
Until-I encounter my naps,
I’m not talking about those-cute detangle with the spray naps.
I’m talking about those, slave naps, like,
No comb, brush, or man can handle the kind of naps I got- like,
No way you are touching my hair-naps like
Back 10 feet up, or we can dance naps
Those naps like-
DAMN!
I have bi-racial hair,
Those smooth and silk rafts hanging all through my mane,
Until you get to the back, and encounter the jungle, in which you can find Tarzan and Jane.
In the front you forget and relax in the pleasure,
Until you get to the back and remember pain
Baby hair slicked back with that good 4 dollar pomade,
That goes with roots and tangles,
Soaked with that same olive oil; mixed with that spaghetti sauce momade.
I have bi-racial hair,
Combs run freely through my fine breezy, just to the part, the most you can make,
Until it gets to the back and
Breaks.
I have bi-racial hair
Like-
The only thing my mother could put it in was 2 big braids,
And sometimes that was to much,
So she left half undone.
I was in the mirror, I was in the mirror,
Convincing my self I looked just like a dark-skinned Alicia Keys
I have bi-racial hair,
because I have bi-racial blood.
I’m not talking about that-cute they met then fell in love, blood
I’m talking about that- slaved raped six times by the master,
Birthing 6 mixed babies, later hung blood
I’m talking about that cross burning in the mud, blood
And you call me a mud blood,
Slit my rist,
my blood does not excrete in black and white.
I drean in verse and in red
Like what drained from Emmit Tills’ lips when he was killed for breaking down color lines
Bi-racial who surcomes to the abuse from her peers in her middle school,
Those whose who constantly called me an Oreo
Well she’s not white, its more like Reese’s cookie, mixed breed or a mullato
That’s what it is a reverse mulatto
I AM NOT A FUCKING COOKIE OR A BITCH!
My roots are deep too
my bi-racial roots are not blind
or more than cotton soft
cause my blood were in the sun, picking cotton too
a thousand times discrated for my race
a thousand time discrated from my history y'all never get
let textbooks be your truth
and sprinkle the ashes of your history into streams
i dream for a time and place where
maybe y'all all accept me
maybe we need to wake up again and remember a morning of you
like something new
baby I'll be green cause my people drove there
you people drove me there
with my tender heart
tender head
and my bi-racial hair
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RTnxJdxhU7o
Thursday, September 23, 2010
HunnyBeinFree- STuff that Interested me today....
Danish electronic soul duo Quadron-
The Art of Steven Lopez- After Midnight Collection
Check out the artist webpage: http://artworksmagazine.com/2009/06/steven-lopez/
Tying The Knot Collection by Karen J Revis (my aunt)
John Mayer Acoustic version of "Who Say's"
The Art of Steven Lopez- After Midnight Collection
Check out the artist webpage: http://artworksmagazine.com/2009/06/steven-lopez/
Tying The Knot Collection by Karen J Revis (my aunt)
John Mayer Acoustic version of "Who Say's"
Monday, September 20, 2010
HunnyBeeFree- Think Happiness & IT WILL COME...
Hey Hunnybee's!!
It’s been 10 months since your Momma Hunnybee has been out of the relationship world...and you know what...IT'S BEEN GREAT! By finally giving myself the opportunity to figure out myself and all my flaws, I was able to make changes, set goals, recharge, and prepare myself for whatever else God has in store for me. I finally gave myself the chance to think for me, and NOT for us (which can be very stressful), and was able to think happy thoughts, and genuinely remember what it felt like to be HAPPY
Growing up in a single, African-American household, can go one of two ways when it comes to marriage. One single mother may teach her daughter to NOT depend on anyone, much less men, and to focus more on her career & finances than romances. On the latter, the mother may influence her daughter by teaching principles of marriage being sacred, and that family-equaling a husband and children- is the only way to find true happiness. I believe neither side of the realm is completely wrong, and if done in a well balance value meal (because I relate everything to food), a young woman could grow up having the world if she chose- Neither the less… I was the child brought up to believe that happiness was only to be found if you had someone to share it with, and that you weren't a whole unless you had a partner around to take full care of you (NOT BLAMING MY FAMILY, #IMJUSTSAYIN). By being taught this, I've always thought by being in a relationship, I was luckier than the next because I had someone to share my stories with and take care of me. After 7 years of stress, all the happy times, and the bad, I was always in a constant fight with myself because I was never fully happy. At the end of the day, I had to de-brain wash myself and realize I wasn't fully happy because I believed I couldn't live life SUCCESSFULLY alone! In the end, after all is said and done, I was one, if not the main cause, for the outfall of my relationship. I was not able to love me the way I needed to love myself and this Hunnybee's, THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT! (In Step MJB song “BE HAPPY”..."How can I love somebody else, If I can't love myself enough to know...".
I think at the end of the day, people in general need to take time, experience life, and realize what life is like as an adult being alone. Life is fun! Go out, have a drink with a cute guy or girl, flirt a little! Ladies wear that scandalous dress you wouldn't wear while your dating that "special" someone- DO YOU! It pays off in the end, and you'll honestly thank yourself for the time you spent getting to know, love, respect, and cherish yourself, your space, and your time alone!....
On a brighter note…I’ve recently started dating my 6th grade Middle School crush! I’m completely Happy, completely Recharged, and completely ready to START OVER and be Happily in a relationship!! Smile!
It’s been 10 months since your Momma Hunnybee has been out of the relationship world...and you know what...IT'S BEEN GREAT! By finally giving myself the opportunity to figure out myself and all my flaws, I was able to make changes, set goals, recharge, and prepare myself for whatever else God has in store for me. I finally gave myself the chance to think for me, and NOT for us (which can be very stressful), and was able to think happy thoughts, and genuinely remember what it felt like to be HAPPY
Growing up in a single, African-American household, can go one of two ways when it comes to marriage. One single mother may teach her daughter to NOT depend on anyone, much less men, and to focus more on her career & finances than romances. On the latter, the mother may influence her daughter by teaching principles of marriage being sacred, and that family-equaling a husband and children- is the only way to find true happiness. I believe neither side of the realm is completely wrong, and if done in a well balance value meal (because I relate everything to food), a young woman could grow up having the world if she chose- Neither the less… I was the child brought up to believe that happiness was only to be found if you had someone to share it with, and that you weren't a whole unless you had a partner around to take full care of you (NOT BLAMING MY FAMILY, #IMJUSTSAYIN). By being taught this, I've always thought by being in a relationship, I was luckier than the next because I had someone to share my stories with and take care of me. After 7 years of stress, all the happy times, and the bad, I was always in a constant fight with myself because I was never fully happy. At the end of the day, I had to de-brain wash myself and realize I wasn't fully happy because I believed I couldn't live life SUCCESSFULLY alone! In the end, after all is said and done, I was one, if not the main cause, for the outfall of my relationship. I was not able to love me the way I needed to love myself and this Hunnybee's, THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT! (In Step MJB song “BE HAPPY”..."How can I love somebody else, If I can't love myself enough to know...".
I think at the end of the day, people in general need to take time, experience life, and realize what life is like as an adult being alone. Life is fun! Go out, have a drink with a cute guy or girl, flirt a little! Ladies wear that scandalous dress you wouldn't wear while your dating that "special" someone- DO YOU! It pays off in the end, and you'll honestly thank yourself for the time you spent getting to know, love, respect, and cherish yourself, your space, and your time alone!....
On a brighter note…I’ve recently started dating my 6th grade Middle School crush! I’m completely Happy, completely Recharged, and completely ready to START OVER and be Happily in a relationship!! Smile!
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