Flaws & All...Tips from Essence Magazine & Will Smith

Hey Hunnybee's!

As you have read in my previous post, the Queen Hunny Bee has been looking for Mr. Right! I came across an article written by Charli Penn, a writer for Essence Magazine, who interviewed Will Smith on his 13year SOLID marriage to the lovely Jada Pinkett Smith. This article caters to a married couple trying to keep things solid and fresh, however, somethings still apply...As you know, it is always a good look to plan for the future, so you won't make mistakes other women have in the past, or even mistakes you've made once before. I suggest you read this "short but to the point" article, reflect, and write down things you could possibly do better in your relationship, or even for yourself. It usually isn't always a man's fault things don't work out, so lets learn how we can present ourselves in a way that knock out all the bullshit. If we start at home with us, map out what we want, and what we can bring to the table, then maybe that will cut out all the crap we deal on a day to day basis with the other sex..

Grab a bottle, sit, reflect, and lets write down our flaws & all ladys...

Here's the gist of the interview:

If You Marry Your Best Friend, You’re Good
Every man wants to marry his homie. A lot of women will impress them, but it’s the one they can always laugh with and be themselves with that will ultimately impress them the most. If you can be yourselves around each other, 100 percent of the time, and they can make you laugh like no one else can, you’ll never have a dull moment together.

Remind Him of What He Has
When you start to feel that you’re nagging your husband to the point of no return and nothing you’re saying is getting through, Will suggests you try a new approach. Hold him close, look him right in the eyes, and tell him that you love him, you’re right there, and you always will be, BUT you need him to pick his socks up – right now. As Will puts it, it’s important to remind him that your request is coming from a good place, and what you want is a small thing in the grand scheme of things.

All Men Need A Little Space
If you don’t give your husband thirty minutes to himself when he first gets home he’ll stop coming home. When I asked Will when a wife was supposed to say her piece, he responded, “anytime after that.” Will reminded me that everyone’s home needs to feel like a happy place, and it won’t if you’re “greeted with negativity” every time you enter the door.

Focus on Balance and Excitement Always
According to Will and Jada’s way of thinking about marriage, maintaining a happy union isn’t just about making time for one another, it’s about making the time count too. Excitement and mystery are everything, he said. Surprise them, let them know you love them, laugh together – whatever it takes to put a smile on their face.

For the full interview, please follow the link:
http://www.essence.com/2011/06/20/what-will-smith-taught-me-about-marriage/